Roar will publish a first-person story about abortion, “My Abortion: A Daily Story,” every day for at least 365 days. The excerpt that follows is from Bekki’s experience. She opens up about her two abortions as well as her decisions to have two children; she speaks collectively of her experiences as “the best four decisions [she] has ever made.” Read her full narrative that was published by the Tennessee Stories Project.
“One month before my twenty-first birthday, I had my son. Two and a half years later, I had an abortion (I won’t go too much into it, but my mental health, my marriage, and my finances were a wreck). It was such a heartbreaking experience that I immediately got on birth control. Six months later, my birth control failed (as it sometimes does) and I ended up pregnant again…and since I was still in the same boat, I hung my head and tearfully went back to the clinic. My (now ex) husband was not supportive of my choice, but he knew he couldn’t stop me. A few years later, after a lot of hard work and healing, I planned a pregnancy that grew into my fiery little daughter. And then two years after she arrived, I found myself divorced from the man who STILL to this day constantly complains about the child support he has to pay (the state requires it based on our incomes…I didn’t ask him for it) and sometimes I think, ‘I wonder if he remembers that he could be supporting three children.’
To be honest, I didn’t consider myself pro-choice until I had my son. Before that, I was completely ignorant to all of the challenges of raising a human being. I was raised “pro-life” Baptist and I parroted every silly myth that had been shoved into my head….”