Roar will publish a first-person story about abortion, “My Abortion: A Daily Story,” every day for at least 365 days. What follows is Naomi’s story. She reflects on her abortion experience in the context of how it helped her to “turn her life around,” as she gradually learned to invest in her own health and future. Read Naomi’s full personal essay that was published by Huffington Post.
Note: The US House of Representatives is slated to vote today, October 3, on an abortion ban, HR 36. It would impose restrictions that would push safe, confidential abortion out of reach for many, as well as threaten abortion providers with criminal penalties if they offered safe care after 20 weeks’ gestation. Learn more and consider speaking out against this harmful bill via the National Asian Pacific American Women’s Forum (NAPAWF)’s letter to Congress.
“Most people my age were raised to believe abortions are bad and only bad people have them. So, it’s no surprise that immediately following my abortion, only three individuals knew (my boyfriend, my sister, and my closest co-worker who had to put up with me).
I felt like I had to carry the burden, grief, and tears of the experience all alone. Out of shame, I pushed the experience of the abortion deep down into the most hidden parts of me. I didn’t want anyone to know I was THAT kind of woman ― the woman who chose herself over her unborn child. The one who was condemned to eternity in hell for her sin (according to all of my church friends).
After nearly a decade of trying to repress the experience, I decided it was finally time to own it and tell it. I’m tired of editing out parts of my life experiences to make my story more acceptable to share…”