Abortion Story #207: Not Ashamed

Roar will publish a first-person story about abortion, “My Abortion: A Daily Story,” every day for at least 365 days. The following comes from Brenda DeJardin, who published her story on the blog of Indivisible North Seattle. She straightforwardly speaks about the emotional and practical process she went through to obtain an abortion in her late twenties. Brenda is “not ashamed because human beings are imperfect.”


“My name is Brenda DeJardin and I had an Abortion 1991 at the age of 26. My abortion story isn’t sensational or unusual in any way and I believe most stories are not.

…I lived in Eau Claire, WI. (pop 60,000) and was going to college as well as working part-time. I met a man, had a sexual relationship with him and accidentally got pregnant. Yes, I was surprised by this because I had successfully NOT been pregnant and had been sexually active since my teens.

Seriously – I was very careful because I didn’t want kids without a husband. I wanted the chance to find out who I was before raising a child. I mean, what could I bring to the life of a child if I had no base and no security?

But somewhere, I’d made a mistake.

One day I got sick and threw up and two weeks later I was still throwing up. My dad took me to the UW doctor’s office where I was pronounced [p]regnant. I was completely shocked and overwhelmed as I remembered my mother’s horror stories about [h]yperemesis during her pregnancy with me. My dad and I cried together and I told him that I was going to have an abortion. Then I told my partner that I was going to have an abortion…”

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