Roar will publish a first-person story about abortion, “My Abortion: A Daily Story,” every day for at least 365 days. In 2016, then-candidate Donald Trump responded to a debate question with an inaccurate remark about abortions that occur later in pregnancy. This prompted Rev. Dr. Amy Butler to publish her personal experience with later abortion. Rev. Butler discusses “the day [her] heart broke,” making the decision to end a wanted pregnancy after learning about a severe fetal anomaly. Originally published in USA Today, a piece of her story is excerpted below.
“I don’t often speak about this experience. And I’ve never written about it until now.
The late-term abortion I chose was the end of a dream. The pain was so real and so consuming that navigating my way through the grief, I never thought that I would have the happy, healthy family that I do today. It was one of the most agonizing experiences of my life and a true lesson in the reality that life is not always as clear-cut and obvious as you might think it is.
When my oldest son was a little over a year old, my husband and I got the news that I was pregnant with a second child, a girl. Chasing a toddler while juggling a job and all-day sickness was no picnic, but I was excited about the new addition to our family. As is the case with not-first pregnancies, I handled most of the doctor’s appointments on my own — I knew the drill. Everything seemed to be going well; the baby was active and present in family conversations, her big brother slowly acquiring the language of siblinghood, the lively discussion of her name a frequent topic.
Until … until …”