Roar will publish a first-person story about abortion, “My Abortion: A Daily Story,” every day for at least 365 days. Below is an excerpt from Glamazon Tyomi’s personal abortion story, which she originally published in Ebony. After making a decision to have an abortion, she later realizes the value of “listen[ing] without judgment,” discussing her experiences and observations as a Black woman seeking care and telling her story to other Black women.
““You are pregnant” were words I didn’t expect to hear at the start of 2016. I thought I was going for a routine pap smear at Planned Parenthood like normal, but the appointment was cut short once the news was delivered that I was expecting. My mind was racing.
“How didn’t I know I was pregnant? There had to be signs that I overlooked. What am I going to do now?”
On one hand, I was elated to know that I had finally moved into a healthy space with my womb, but as soon as the reality of my recent breakup set in, I realized that making a decision about this pregnancy wasn’t going to be easy. On top of that I didn’t want to be judged negatively by those that loved me.
After weighing the pros and cons of each of my options, I chose to abort. And even though I had the support of my family and friends for whatever decision I decided to make, I had to face the termination and its emotional consequences alone.
It’s difficult to open up about traumatic experiences, especially when one involves a topic that many feel uncomfortable speaking about. But I have always been someone that believes there is healing within communication…”
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. She is on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.