My Abortion #170: Turner Syndrome Story

This month, we are showcasing some selections from our first six months of stories. This story previously appeared here in ROAR. 

The following story comes from Ending a Wanted pregnancy, a website that exists to provide understanding, comfort, and support to parents, and especially mothers, who have received severe prenatal or maternal diagnosis and have decided to end their wanted pregnancy. 

When Kathy was 38, she got pregnant with her first child. Because of her age, she took measures to have testing done for abnormal chromosome. Unfortunately, her child was diagnosed with Turner’s syndrome.

This is her story

Twelve years ago I found out I was pregnant with my first child. I was 38, which meant that I was at increased risk for having a baby with abnormal chromosomes, especially Down syndrome.

I carefully chose a doctor to do the chorionic villous sampling test in my first trimester. I went for the testing without my husband because I thought it would be straightforward and we’d be getting results later. That turned out to not have been the best decision.

In order to do the test, they first do an ultrasound to see if the fetus is positioned in a way that it can be done. After the tech did the ultrasound, she left and told me that the doctor would be in shortly. He came in the room, sat down, looked at me and told me that the ultrasound was abnormal, that the nuchal translucency (a measure of the thickness of the tissue on the back of the neck) was 6 mm when it should be 2 mm. I quickly learned that this meant that there was a lot of swelling of the baby’s body and that it meant that there was something very wrong, most likely a genetic problem that caused a problem with the heart. We could get more information by completing the testing, which we did that day. Then we waited for the genetic results.

When we got the results, we found out that she had Turner syndrome, with only one X chromosome. I am a doctor and I knew something about Turner’s syndrome. I had met women with it, knew that they were infertile and had some health issues including heart problems. What I didn’t know was what I then learned—most girls born with Turner syndrome had “mosaic” Turner syndrome, where only some of the cells in their bodies have the abnormal chromosomes and the other cells have normal chromosomes. I also learned that only a very small percentage of fetuses with Turner syndrome survived to birth, that most died in the womb at 19-24 weeks. It was pretty clear because of how swollen she was that my baby was not one of the lucky ones. The testing confirmed this, showed that she did not have mosaic Turner’s. We knew that we were going to lose her. It was a really terrible time.

We chose to end the pregnancy rather than wait for her to die inside me, which sounded like absolute torture as well as having some risks for my health. No one knew that I was pregnant other than my family and a few good friends, and I was very grateful for that. I was also grateful for the care that my amazing OB/GYN provided as she compassionately helped us through this decision and the procedure.

I’ve since had another daughter and a son who are now 9 and 10, feel very fortunate to have them in my lives, but as I write this I am crying for their sister.

One Reply to “My Abortion #170: Turner Syndrome Story”

  1. It’s sad you had to go through that experience.

    Our One in a Million Baby is 26 yrs old now. 26 years ago, we didn’t have the kind of testing available today, or even 10 or 15 yrs ago, so our Turners girl wasn’t discovered until she was in the second grade when she stopped growing (Turner Syndrome girls have short stature). When we found out, we were counseled that she would need to be put into special education, as Turners girls have learning disabilities.

    Well, we didn’t do any of the special needs things we were told we needed to do with exception of putting her on HGH so she could get to 5’ tall. She had to learn how to learn differently so she could succeed in school, but she graduated with a 4.0, attended college on an academic scholarship finishing her degree in 4 yrs. She now splits her time working for a leading tech company and acting. You might have seen her on some leading shows.

    I’m so glad we didn’t have the testing available during her Mom’s pregnancy. Even the thought of not ever having her in our lives makes me shutter.

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